In the traditional sense of responsibilities, the gentleman asked to serve in this capacity has the overall goal of taking care of you, the groom. The two main tasks that face the best man are the Toast at the reception and the organization, planning and implementation of the Bachelor Party! The first is the Best Man Toast or Speech. This is at a point in the reception where he will give a short, clean, often witty or sentimental speech. When he looks over his speech, it should not be embarrassing, lewd, or upsetting to anyone but should evoke a sense of warmth and humor. He may wish to recall how you guys met or a funny story, and hopefully something wonderful about your new wife. This is his time to share from his heart what everybody in the room also would want to say. Don't forget, practice makes perfect. Spending some time going over the planned speech or toast will ensure a smooth delivery.

The last night out for the groom as a single man has become a national institution, and your Best Man has the joy of planning that very special evening. But beware; it can be a catch 22! On one hand, your dear friend wants to have a great party with all the bells and whistles; but on the other hand, he must make sure that you stay on good terms with your bride-to-be and your future Mother-in-law. Ask him to give you as little information as he can to keep you honest, and reassure your bride that all will be well. One way to assure her is to request that the party be planned on another night in place of the "night before the wedding." Many brides fear that their fiancés might show up at the wedding hung over or, even worse, do something that night that they may live to regret. A good friend won't want you to fall into any mischief.