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Most traditions seem to have faded and changed over the years except for an invitation to a formal event. Etiquette still exists when inviting guests to your wedding. The outer envelope is addressed to the guest and/or couple. The inner envelope indicates exactly who is invited to the event. It is a way to personalize your request to have them present at your celebration.

Photo + design courtesy of Lime & Lilly Calligraphy

The inner envelope is also a way to add some unique design elements to your invitation suite. Custom liners can be made and lined inside the envelope reflecting the theme of your wedding. Options include monograms, patterns, and even just simple pearlized liners add thickness and elegance to the plain envelope.

When addressing the inner envelope, you can be formal or even slightly casual depending on the formality of the wedding. Black tie or formal weddings would require tiles (i.e.) Mr. and Mrs. Smith. A backyard or barn wedding might lend itself to something less formal where names can be used (I.e.) Jennifer and Brandon. When titles are not used, the ladies name should be listed first. If addressing to a same sex couple the one you know better personally would be listed first.

Monograms designed by ShaFox Weddings & Events

Inner Envelope Guide:

Married Couple

Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Married Couple inviting Children/Family

Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Jacob, Andrew, Sarah (list children oldest to youngest)

Married Doctor and Spouse

Dr. and Mrs. Jacobson

Both Spouses are Doctors

The Doctors Jones or Dr. Jones and Dr. Richardson (if spouse has different last name)

Single Invite with Guest

Ms. Jones and guest

Couples Living Together, Not Married

Ms. Thompson and Mr. Byer

Same Sex Couples

Ms. Reynolds and Ms. Griffin

This process does require one more step, but it’s worth it in the end. The invitation is the first impression and reflection of your wedding. Make sure it matches your vision for the day!

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